The Rules on Being Friends with Your Coworkers

When Work and Play Mix, There are Some Rules of Engagement Nothing is more sticky than trying to make friends of your coworkers, especially if you are in the same role competing for the same opportunities.  But before we get too far, let's define how we mean "friend". A friend is a person you can totally…

Why You Should Stop Oversharing at Work

It's tempting to want to share all your personal stories with co-workers but it can come at a cost The office over-sharer, I have worked with so many... The blonde who admitted that she wears leather, crotchless panties to work The guy who gave us weekly play-by-plays on why his baby mama is trash (or…

Should You Live Together Before Marriage?

Living together, cohabitation, shaking up...whatever you call it I have an opinion on doing it before the double rings Like so many of your favorite relationship gurus, I have some opinions on relationships backed by no research and no experiences other than my own. But since my limited experience is leading me down the aisle, I also…

Why Black Women Need Self-Care and How I am Doing it

Self-Care is a Non-negotiable for Those of us Who are Both Black and Female Self-care is a hot topic right now and everyone has an opinion on how to do it correctly. It's basically the process of giving yourself what you need at the moment, whatever that may be. Self-care is critical, especially for black women. …

The Office Politics of Taking Responsibility for Shared Mistakes

Knowing When to Speak Up for Yourself is a Lesson We all Have to Learn the Hard Way I had always thought of accepting blame even when it was not all mine was a way of being not "passing the buck". Isn't that what they preach to you when you get your first job? Well like…

Things that have Surprised Me About Wedding Planning

Wedding Planning has been a real trip So Life Update - I got engaged! And it has been amazing. I am elated to be marrying a great partner. I am excited to have a celebration that reflects who we are with family and friends as well. But, there are few things about wedding planning that…

#TEAMMOLLY | Why Issa and Lawrence Are Both Trash

I weighed in on the #TeamIssa Vs. #TeamLawrence debate and came out #TeamMolly I know you are gonna be mad so feel free to square up on twitter. Find me @TheLiveWellGirl  I have been watching Insecure and live tweeting since season one. I am a long time fan of Issa Rae from her days of…

Black Hair in Corporate America

Do you find yourself wondering how black is too black when it comes to hair in the office? We are in the dog days of summer (aka peak protective style season). It is that time of year where all the black girls at work start whispering in groups about how acceptable the new hair trend…

It’s not Job Hopping, If You do it Right

No one is going to look out for you like you The itch to bounce always happens around the three-year mark, doesn’t it? By this time you have gotten a true sense of your career path at your company and it's time to decide if you are going to dig in deeper or leave. Honestly,…

Questions Black Women in Interracial Relationships are Tired of Hearing

Interracial relationships aren't the problem, it's all the problematic folks with assumptions As a black woman in an interracial relationship, I get questions all the time and I am happy to answer most of them but there are a few things that often leave me ... perplexed (or whatever that feeling is when you are offended but…

Your Girl’s Trip Survival Guide

Girl's Trips are not always pretty but they are always worth it A good girl's trip always brings me back to center.  It is the best cure for my post 30 tendencies to be "stiff", petty and dare I admit it... uh, frumpy (do not Ms.Celie shame me, writing is best done in PJs).  When…

Honest Life Lessons I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

Life Lessons to My Younger Self It's my birthday and every year at this time I get reflective thinking about all the things that happened or could have happened. What’s the saying? “God protects babies and fools”. Yeah, fool… all me for so much of these 34 years. But being the fool taught me a…

Amazing Summer Reads for Black Girls by Black Girls: Summer ’17 Edition

I Love a Good Summer Read and These are My Favorites This Year I love the summer. I love all the things we just naturally do when the days are long and the sun is high like getting outside, eating lighter food and lazing by the pool with a good summer read. Summer reads themselves…

Why Juneteenth Matters

Why you should celebrate Juneteenth

How I Made New Friends as a grown up

Making new friends as a fully grown ass woman is a can be challenging but it does not have to be I know the trend is to keep your circle small. I saw all the crappy memes and I get it. You cannot have 20 best friends. Even after calling on all the extrovert gods,…

“Woke” is More than Knowing Better, It’s Doing Better Too

Why Just Being Woke is not Enough

It’s Black Music Month | 15 Songs to Empower Black Women #PlaylistIncluded

June is Black Music Month, Enjoy It’s June and Black Music Month. Yeah, that’s a thing. On this day in 1979, Jimmy Carter decreed the holiday and I am here for it. Music is such a huge part of who we are and there is a song for every way we want to feel. Black…

Magical Black Girls in Personal Finance to Follow Right Now

Finding your footing in good money management is often about finding representation.  Some people have close friends and family to help them make great financial decisions and others have to learn from the experts. Either way, one of the best decisions you can make is to find a person who can offer you some frank…

5 Things Black Mothers Teach Their Daughters About Money

...Thank You to All the Mothers and Grandmothers Raising Smart, Savvy and Tenacious Daughters... I should tell you none of the lessons I am about to discuss were direct lectures to me about money. They are simply the knowledge I gain by listening and watching one joyful and determined black girl from Mobile, Alabama make…

How to Save More Money This Year

You get a few hundred bucks stashed finally and one financial hiccup sends you back to the savings account to retrieve your hard won savings. It's a revolving door but...