Getting Married Surprises

I Got Married| 9 Things that Totally Surprised Me

I have been married for less than 2 months. You can say I am still a bride and totally unprepared to give marriage advice but I have to tell you I feel like I know some stuff. But don’t worry, I will save the unqualified advice giving until at least the 90-day mark. But, I…

Things that have Surprised Me About Wedding Planning

Things that have Surprised Me About Wedding Planning

Wedding Planning has been a real trip So Life Update - I got engaged! And it has been amazing. I am elated to be marrying a great partner. I am excited to have a celebration that reflects who we are with family and friends as well. But, there are few things about wedding planning that…

Honest Life Lessons I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

Honest Life Lessons I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

Life Lessons to My Younger Self It's my birthday and every year at this time I get reflective thinking about all the things that happened or could have happened. What’s the saying? “God protects babies and fools”. Yeah, fool… all me for so much of these 34 years. But being the fool taught me a…

This past Sunday I met a young woman named Bentia. She looked like me... my kinky hair, my brown skin and my hopeful eyes. She approached me in the parking lot of the grocery store and asked me to help her. She needed food. She asked me if I would go back in the store and buy her and her two young children food for the day. She explained that someone had stolen her benefits cards and it takes 30 days for it to be replaced and now, two weeks later, she had nothing left to feed her children. I thought for a second and considered all that a present to the world... the things that I would tell you about myself. If you were to ask me, I would say I am a woman for other women. I would say that I am a person that cared and would point to all the that I have done to prove this point.. My volunteer work, hosted non-profit events and donations to organizations. But in this moment looking at this woman with my kinky hair, my brown skin and my hopeful eyes... Another me, would have walked away and been too scared to act. I would have not wanted to open myself up to a situation I cannot control. On a one to one level it is too easy to this is not my problem or brush her off someone trying to get over. I decided I wanted to be more that a list of good deeds that prove I am a good person. We went back into the store and we got her food for the day and I got her a gift card to cover food until her card arrived in another two weeks. After checking out we stared at each other and collapsed in a hug that felt familiar...sisterly. Overcome with emotion, I walked away and thought about this encounter the entire day. I just keep thinking of what another me would have done and how when we know better about the world, we have to do better. My question is what is the point of everyone staying woke if it does not help those who need it most and what would you have done?

“Woke” is More than Knowing Better, It’s Doing Better Too

Why Just Being Woke is not Enough

Why I Love Having a Sister

13 Reasons Why Sisters are Amazing

  It's National Siblings Day and although I am the oldest of 4 kiddos, my most interesting relationship is with my sister. My sister is a generally awesome asset in my life as an adult but as kids... not so much. We fought about everything, we were jealous of everything and it was not until I…

International Goof Off Day, Day Off, Relax, Unplug, Self Care

How I am Spending My Self-Care Day

Yay for Self-Care! I just found out today was International Goof Off Day and I think it may be one of my favorite holidays. With all the gift-giving, romantic obligations and forced family interactions that come along with other holidays, a day of sweet... sweet nothing is welcome. And it falls on a weekday makes it…

Lisa Live Well, Interracial love story

An Interracial Love Story | How It Began…

Let's start by saying, I am in a warm, loving, soul-satisfying interracial relationship with one of the greatest men I have ever known. But when it started (5 years ago), I had questions. I vividly remember cruising online blogs for information to validate all that I was feeling at the time. I heard from a…

Thoughts on Get Out

Thoughts on Jordan Peele’s Movie, Get Out, From the Perspective of a Woman in an Interracial Relationship

Let me preface this by saying, I have incredible future in-laws/BF Family etc. They are nothing like the people in Get Out. #HeyYall 🙂 Ok, let's dig in... I went to see Get Out this weekend with the rest of the world. It was a great movie that left my heart racing in suspense and…